Dan (danguyf) wrote,
Dan
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I inscribe this in the card with every wedding gift...

...and pray that they never get it backwards.

"Your love is your own private possession, but marriage is more than something personal -- it is a status, an office. Just as it is the crown, and not merely the will to rule, that makes the king, so it is marriage, and not merely your love for each other, that joins you together in the sight of God and man.

It is not your love that sustains marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains your love."

-- Dietrich Bonhoeffer
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Is it your anniversary?
Our 8th anniversary was last month.

I'm just tired of hearing about people getting divorced because they are "not in love anymore". That completely misses the point of marriage in my view.

And it's sad and unfortunate, because marriage isn't all roses and kisses, but it can be pretty awesome if both parties are willing to stick it out through the bad times and make an honest effort.
i respect your view of marriage. But at the end of the day, every person has to live with himself or herself, and no one really knows what goes on in another's life. There are bad times and there are fundamental changes. i've learned the hard way, you can't force something. What i think is sad and unfortunate, is being trapped in a situation when one has had a substantial change of heart, and no amount of effort will make things unchange. We all have to do what is right for ourselves, and what is right for one person isn't always right for another.